Here, statements women make in their profiles that chase away eligible bachelors. He hears: I'm not financially secure, and I believe men should take care of women. " asks Eli*, a 41-year-old from Orlando, FL, who's used online dating sites.You may only mean you don't want a financial wreck for a boyfriend, but this request is a red flag for men.You'll need to look for other clues, like whether he contacts you when he says he's going to, to gauge trustworthiness. That's the question Davis and Katz both say men ask themselves when you emphasize your relationship with your kids too much in your profile.Katz suggests showing, and not telling, that you're close to them by giving an example of something you do together.Besides, "starting your relationship based on a lie isn't the best way to begin 'happily ever after,'" says Davis."If he's willing to hide how you met from friends and family, what might he hide from ? He hears: I don't have strong opinions about anything or I spend a lot of time on the couch in my sweats watching movies.Give examples of trips you've taken or weekend activities you enjoy.
"The best profile indicates what the reader gets out of being with you," explains Katz.
"It's a little 'thou doth protest too much,'" says Katz.
"It comes off as defensive, insecure and trying too hard." Rather than worrying that your age doesn't accurately reflect you, use examples of activities or hobbies that illustrate your youthful side.
Even if you don't, both Wygant and Katz say not to mention it in your profile.
Don't worry about wasting your time on men only looking for sex.
You want someone whose lifestyle complements yours, not someone fixated on the birth date on your driver's license. He hears: I work 60 hours a week, teach yoga on the side and am taking classes to learn seven different languages.