The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.
But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?
She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children.
She holds bachelor's degrees in English and history from Centenary College of Louisiana.
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph D, assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.
Her main priority is her children and she will not stand for a man who messes her about, strings her along or assumes she's vulnerable just because she's on her own.
Tessina, Ph D, a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again, tells Web MD.
For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains.
She is confident and appreciative of her strengths and abilities.
To be the man of her dreams, you can't create drama and you must want kids. Show her you can bring strength, stability and love to her life.
Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).