(Thank you, 'Abdu'l-Baha.) When dating, we put on a nice face, a good front, and try to be on our best behaviour, which is not how we normally are.
He was sitting on the corner of a desk, relaxed as could be, talking with those of us who were working in the office. I also don't recall much else of his informal answer, but those words, and that tone, have stuck with me for years. Those questions, of course, led me on a search for looking into the various methods of finding a marriage partner that would not elicit that tone of his that said so much.
To aid us in this, we began to study the Writings together.
And all the while we went to movies with friends, had dinner with groups of people, and on and on.
Now these glasses may help after the marriage, but not before.
When getting to know the individual, you really want to keep your head and your vision clear.
As you may know, I am very happily married, and talk about my wife a lot here. For some reason, as of late, I have been asked many times how it was that we came to realize that we wanted to get married. How would I recommend people to go about finding a marriage partner?